Dear friends,

Your advice on this issue would be very helpful and get a long way to create precedence in so many lives. It is a true live story we received and we would like to advice the party in question. For some reasons, we decided not to disclose and or use any names.

There is this young girl whom when she was 15years old, she was admired by this guy she has never met. Each time she passed by, this guy would smile and deep in his mind, he had his own intentions. Interesting enough, this guy did not only admire the girl, he was falling in love with the beautiful sweet girl but the one thing that stopped this guy was that, he did not have the courage to approach this girl.

So one day, this guy with the help of some of his friends, they planned an attack on this girl’s house. They were all masked, attacked the girl’s home as if they were robbers of which they did not steal or destroy anything in the girl’s house but the boy’s main objective was to rape the girl of which he succeeded. This kept her traumatized all through her early teenage years. She did not want to do away with the thoughts of what happened to her: that she loosed her virginity through an act of rape.

While this girl was going through all these traumas, on the other hand, the young guy was still struggling to get close to the girl. On good day, while the girl was doing her normal evening meditations in one of the parks around the neighborhood, this guy approached her and tried to talk to her but as she had vowed never to talk to any boy, talk less of dating them due to the awful incident, she did not give the boy a chance. But this guy was always making advances. And as time went on, she started building some trust in this guy not knowing he was the one who assaulted her. Both of them did not still open up towards each other. But as months went by, things were getting more difficult for both of them as they were both falling in love with each other.

8 months later, this guy took a step of courage to ask the girl’s hand in marriage. As terrified as she was, she needed some time to think over. At the end of 2 months, the girl’s respond was in the affirmative. And as happy as the boy wanted to live with the love of his life, he took his “now to be wife” for dinner where they were talking about their pasts and other stuffs. While they were talking, the guy asked the girl “would you marry me?” the girl said “yes” and the boy asked “why?” and the girl responded with some softness “because I love you and you are the first man I have ever loved.” The guy said “don’t tell me you are a virgin?” tears started running down from the girl’s eyes. The boy did not only end there, but asked the girl again “would you still marry me despite any condition?” The girl said “I will.”

On the other hand, the girl asked the boy “are you sure you would still go ahead to marry me if I tell you something?” she was in tears and the boy was trying to put her together. She went further and explained to the boy how she was been raped at the age of 15 and how she took the event and has always lived with. And the boy said that is the past “we just have to move forward.” At this point, the girl did not still know this was the person who raped her years back. The guy gently asked her, “would you ever forgive the boy who did that act to you?” the girl said “hell no.” then the boy was in deep regret. He gently pulled the girl into his arms and gently whispered in her ears “baby I am the boy who raped you years ago but I pray you forgive me.” At first, she thought it was a joke and when the boy went further to explain and describe the whole incident; she then believed it was him. At this point, the girl no longer found any reason to move on with the marriage plans and she said “count me out, just count me out.” She then left.

This thought went deep into her mind and she had to recall it all. She vowed never to see this boy again. So she decided to write this down so that you can advice her as soon as possible. If you were in her shoes, what would you do? A boy who raped you and later on came up to marry you? Please just be as honest as possible and no insults please. Would you still go ahead with the plans to marry him?